{"id":682,"date":"2025-11-22T13:46:37","date_gmt":"2025-11-22T10:46:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/?p=682"},"modified":"2025-11-22T13:51:43","modified_gmt":"2025-11-22T10:51:43","slug":"yeni-nesil-neden-evlenmiyor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/index.php\/2025\/11\/22\/yeni-nesil-neden-evlenmiyor\/","title":{"rendered":"Yeni nesil neden evlenmiyor?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>2.05.2025<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"291\" height=\"85\" src=\"https:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-9.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-683\" srcset=\"http:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-9.png 291w, http:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-9-150x44.png 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 291px) 100vw, 291px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"400\" height=\"90\" src=\"https:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-10.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-687\" style=\"width:219px;height:auto\" srcset=\"http:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-10.png 400w, http:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-10-300x68.png 300w, http:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-10-150x34.png 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 400px) 100vw, 400px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"260\" height=\"56\" src=\"https:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-11.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-689\" srcset=\"http:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-11.png 260w, http:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-11-150x32.png 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 260px) 100vw, 260px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image size-full is-resized\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"70\" src=\"https:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-12.png\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-690\" style=\"width:246px;height:auto\" srcset=\"http:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-12.png 300w, http:\/\/mehmetkirtorun.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/11\/image-12-150x35.png 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Bug\u00fcn\u00fcn gen\u00e7leri evlilikten ka\u00e7m\u0131yor; daha \u00e7ok anlam\u0131n\u0131 yitirmi\u015f, duygusal ve ekonomik olarak s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclemez hale gelmi\u015f ili\u015fkilerden uzak duruyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc art\u0131k evlilik, sadece sevgiyle de\u011fil; sosyal onay, ekonomik istikrar ve duygusal olgunlukla da s\u0131nan\u0131yor.<br><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"700\" src=\"https:\/\/imgs.stargazete.com\/imgsdisk\/2025\/05\/02\/yeni-nesil-neden-evlenmiy-897_2.jpg\" alt=\"Yeni nesil neden evlenmiyor?\"><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Mehmet K\u0131rtorun\/ Yazar<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n en yayg\u0131n ama en g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen ger\u00e7e\u011fi. Kimisi bunu tercih ediyor, kimisi buna itiliyor; ama ortak zemin ayn\u0131: G\u00fcvensizlik, k\u0131r\u0131lganl\u0131k ve ba\u011f kuramama. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ba\u011f kurmak sorumluluk, sorumluluk ise fedak\u00e2rl\u0131k gerektiriyor. Ve fedak\u00e2rl\u0131k art\u0131k pek az ki\u015finin ajandas\u0131nda yer buluyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zamanla birlikte insan ili\u015fkileri de d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. Ba\u011f kurmak yerine ba\u011flant\u0131 kurmak yayg\u0131nla\u015ft\u0131; ili\u015fkiler y\u00fczeyselle\u015fti, arkada\u015fl\u0131klar ge\u00e7ici hale geldi. Evlilik ise pek \u00e7ok gen\u00e7 i\u00e7in art\u0131k bir yuva de\u011fil, ki\u015fisel alan\u0131 tehdit eden bir yap\u0131 gibi alg\u0131lan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Aile, sadakat, evlilik gibi kavramlar bireysel \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fckle \u00e7eli\u015fen eski kal\u0131plar gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcrken, onlar\u0131n yerini ge\u00e7ici heyecanlar, sonsuz se\u00e7enekler ve dijital tatminler al\u0131yor. Bu yaz\u0131, gen\u00e7lerin evlili\u011fe mesafeli duru\u015funu sadece &#8220;isteksizlik&#8221; olarak de\u011fil; k\u00fclt\u00fcrel d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm, ekonomik bask\u0131lar, dijitalle\u015fme ve duygusal yorgunluk gibi katmanl\u0131 dinamiklerle birlikte ele alacak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>G\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcde a\u015fk, ger\u00e7ekte yorgunluk<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>G\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fcz ili\u015fkileri duygulara de\u011fil, g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fclere dayan\u0131yor. Sosyal medya sayesinde a\u015fk, hissetmekten \u00e7ok sergilemek, payla\u015fmaktan \u00e7ok &#8220;be\u011feni&#8221; toplamak \u00fczerine kurulu. Kusursuz d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn kareleri, l\u00fcks tatiller, g\u00fcl\u00fcmseyen \u00e7iftler&#8230; Her \u015fey m\u00fckemmel g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de, bu sahneler \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ya\u015fanmas\u0131 istenen bir senaryoya ait.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ba\u011f kurmak yerini performansa b\u0131rakt\u0131. Sevgi, i\u00e7ten bir duygu de\u011fil; iyi \u0131\u015f\u0131k alan bir kareye d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc. T\u00fcketim k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fc bireye s\u00fcrekli &#8220;daha iyisini hak ediyorsun&#8221; diyerek tatminsizlik a\u015f\u0131l\u0131yor. Art\u0131k i\u00e7 huzur de\u011fil, sergilenebilirlik de\u011ferli. Bu da ili\u015fkileri derinlikten uzakla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Neden onun sevgilisi daha ilgili?&#8221;, &#8220;Neden onlar\u0131n d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc b\u00f6yleydi?&#8221; gibi sorular, ili\u015fkilerin sinsi y\u0131k\u0131c\u0131s\u0131 olan k\u0131yas\u0131n ifadesi. K\u0131yas \u00f6nce \u015f\u00fckr\u00fc, sonra sadakati siler. Art\u0131k insanlar partner de\u011fil, rakip oluyor. A\u015fk bir ba\u011f de\u011fil; be\u011feniyle \u00f6l\u00e7\u00fclen bir performans halini al\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ger\u00e7ek ba\u011f kurmak neredeyse devrimsel bir eyleme d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7a\u011f, derinli\u011fi de\u011fil etkileyicili\u011fi \u00f6d\u00fcllendiriyor. Oysa ger\u00e7ek bir ili\u015fki, g\u00f6sterilmek i\u00e7in de\u011fil; birlikte ya\u015fanmak i\u00e7in kurulmal\u0131. Ve bu ancak sab\u0131r, emek ve samimiyetle m\u00fcmk\u00fcn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bir\u00e7ok gen\u00e7 i\u00e7in evlilik korkusunun kayna\u011f\u0131 \u00e7ocuklukta sakl\u0131. S\u00fcrekli tart\u0131\u015fan ebeveynler, ilgisiz roller, sevgisiz ev ortamlar\u0131&#8230; Aile art\u0131k g\u00fcvenli bir liman de\u011fil, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ka\u00e7\u0131n\u0131lmas\u0131 gereken bir alan. &#8220;\u00c7evremde \u00f6rnek alabilece\u011fim bir evlilik yok,&#8221; diyen gen\u00e7lerin sesi, bu g\u00fcvensizli\u011fin yans\u0131mas\u0131. \u0130yi \u00f6rnekler azald\u0131k\u00e7a, k\u00f6t\u00fc \u00f6rnekler genelle\u015ftiriliyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bizim toplumumuzda evlilik sadece iki ki\u015fiyi de\u011fil, iki aileyi de birle\u015ftiriyor. Bu k\u00fclt\u00fcrel yap\u0131 bazen destek, bazen de s\u0131n\u0131r ihlali yarat\u0131yor. Gelin-kaynana \u00e7at\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131, k\u0131skan\u00e7 karde\u015fler ya da g\u00f6steri\u015fli t\u00f6renler, evlili\u011fi duygusal bir ba\u011fdan \u00e7ok sosyal bir &#8220;s\u0131nav&#8221;a \u00e7eviriyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>T\u00fcketim k\u00fclt\u00fcr\u00fcnde a\u015fk\u0131n erozyonu<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Art\u0131k ili\u015fkiler de t\u0131pk\u0131 bir \u00fcr\u00fcn gibi h\u0131zla t\u00fcketiliyor. &#8220;Olmad\u0131ysa yenisi gelir&#8221; mant\u0131\u011f\u0131, sadakati ve sabr\u0131 de\u011fersizle\u015ftiriyor. Oysa ger\u00e7ek ba\u011flar zaman ve emek ister. Ama bu \u00e7a\u011f h\u0131z istiyor \u2014 ve y\u00fczeyde kalmay\u0131 tercih ediyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sonu\u00e7 olarak, gen\u00e7ler ne kendi ailelerine g\u00fcvenebiliyor, ne de ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131nkine. Evlilik, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck kayb\u0131 de\u011fil; insani bir ba\u011f olmal\u0131yd\u0131. Ancak g\u00fcn\u00fcm\u00fczde bu ba\u011f, bask\u0131 gibi alg\u0131lan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Evlilik art\u0131k yaln\u0131zca duygusal de\u011fil, do\u011frudan ekonomik bir y\u00fck anlam\u0131na geliyor. Beyaz e\u015fyadan d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn masraflar\u0131na, ev kiralar\u0131ndan tak\u0131ya kadar uzanan harcamalarla, ortalama bir evlilik 1 milyon TL&#8217;ye yakla\u015fan bir maliyetle kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor. Gen\u00e7lerin &#8220;Neden evlenmiyoruz?&#8221; sorusuna verdikleri en net yan\u0131t da bu:&nbsp;<em>\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc maddi g\u00fcc\u00fcm\u00fcz yetmiyor.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ekonomi sadece cebimizi de\u011fil, hayata bak\u0131\u015f\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 da \u015fekillendiriyor. Bug\u00fcn evlilik karar\u0131 \u00e7o\u011fu zaman a\u015fkla de\u011fil, maddi hesaplarla al\u0131n\u0131yor. &#8220;Alman usul\u00fc&#8221; gibi espriler, art\u0131k sadece mizah de\u011fil; ili\u015fkilerde adalet ve y\u00fck payla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 aray\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131n da yans\u0131mas\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Erkekler i\u00e7in evlilik \u00e7o\u011fu zaman maddi sorumluluk ve \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck kayb\u0131 anlam\u0131na gelirken, kad\u0131nlar a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan h\u00e2l\u00e2 bir g\u00fcvence, sosyal stat\u00fc ve \u00e7ocuk sahibi olma zemini olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcyor. Bu dengesizlik, taraflar\u0131n birbirine duydu\u011fu g\u00fcveni zedeliyor. Ortada bir birliktelikten \u00e7ok, ge\u00e7ici bir anla\u015fma hissi olu\u015fuyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u00dcstelik ekonomik krizler, artan i\u015fsizlik ve kariyer belirsizli\u011fi, evlili\u011fi iyice riskli bir karar haline getiriyor. Gen\u00e7lerin \u015fu sorusu olduk\u00e7a ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i:&nbsp;<em>&#8220;Y\u0131llarca borca girip birka\u00e7 y\u0131l i\u00e7inde bo\u015fanma ihtimaliyle mi ya\u015fayaca\u011f\u0131m?&#8221;<\/em>&nbsp;Bu tablo, evlili\u011fi romantik bir hayalden \u00e7ok l\u00fcks bir t\u00fcketim \u00fcr\u00fcn\u00fcne d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcyor \u2014 ula\u015f\u0131lamaz, pahal\u0131 ve k\u0131r\u0131lgan.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015fen roller, k\u0131r\u0131lan ba\u011flar<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Kad\u0131n ve erkek rolleri h\u0131zla de\u011fi\u015fiyor. Kad\u0131nlar art\u0131k daha e\u011fitimli, ekonomik olarak daha ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z ve sosyal hayatta daha g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr. Evlilik d\u0131\u015f\u0131 annelik giderek daha \u00e7ok kabul g\u00f6r\u00fcyor. Bu bireysel \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fc\u011f\u00fc art\u0131r\u0131rken, geleneksel aile yap\u0131s\u0131nda \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmelere de yol a\u00e7\u0131yor. Kad\u0131n art\u0131k sadece bir e\u015f de\u011fil; kimi zaman tek ba\u015f\u0131na ebeveyn, kimi zaman yaln\u0131z bir hane kurucusu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ancak bu d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcm \u00e7ift y\u00f6nl\u00fc ve e\u015fzamanl\u0131 i\u015flemiyor. Kad\u0131nlar payla\u015f\u0131m\u0131 ve e\u015fitli\u011fi \u00f6nemserken, erkeklerin bir k\u0131sm\u0131 h\u00e2l\u00e2 geleneksel kontrol mekanizmalar\u0131yla ili\u015fki kuruyor. Bu uyumsuzluk, ili\u015fkilerde g\u00fcvenli bir ortak zemin kurmay\u0131 zorla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131yor. \u00dcstelik ekonomik bask\u0131lar da evlili\u011fi y\u00fck gibi g\u00f6steriyor. Bir\u00e7ok erkek, sa\u011flay\u0131c\u0131 rol\u00fcn\u00fc ta\u015f\u0131yamayacak kadar maddi belirsizlik i\u00e7inde. Bu da evlilik kararlar\u0131n\u0131 erteleyen ya da tamamen g\u00fcndemden \u00e7\u0131karan bir k\u0131r\u0131lma yarat\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Modern ili\u015fkilerde art\u0131k herkes &#8220;iyi bir e\u015f&#8221; ar\u0131yor ama \u00e7ok az\u0131 &#8220;iyi bir e\u015f olma&#8221; sorumlulu\u011funu \u00fcstleniyor. Evlilik bir emek ili\u015fkisi olmaktan \u00e7\u0131k\u0131p, mutluluk vaat eden bir &#8220;\u00fcr\u00fcn&#8221; gibi alg\u0131lan\u0131yor. Oysa uzun \u00f6m\u00fcrl\u00fc ili\u015fkiler, yaln\u0131zca sevgiyle de\u011fil, sab\u0131r, \u00f6zveri ve kriz anlar\u0131nda birlikte kalabilme g\u00fcc\u00fcyle m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Toplumda bireycilik y\u00fcceltilirken, ba\u011f kurma becerileri geriliyor. Bug\u00fcn\u00fcn bireyi, kendi alan\u0131n\u0131 en y\u00fcksek de\u011fer olarak g\u00f6r\u00fcyor. Evlilik gibi s\u00fcrekli payla\u015f\u0131m gerektiren bir yap\u0131 ise, bu bireysel s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 tehdit eden bir unsur gibi alg\u0131lan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>&#8220;Annemin evinde daha rahatt\u0131m&#8221; diyen yeni evli \u00e7iftler, asl\u0131nda bireysellik ile birliktelik aras\u0131nda s\u0131k\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f yeni insan profilinin sesi oluyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Zygmunt Bauman&#8217;\u0131n da vurgulad\u0131\u011f\u0131 gibi, bireyselle\u015fme \u00f6zg\u00fcrle\u015ftirici g\u00f6r\u00fcnse de, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman yaln\u0131zla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131c\u0131 bir s\u00fcrece d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcyor. Ba\u011flar\u0131n \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fclmesi, insan\u0131 g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcrde ba\u011f\u0131ms\u0131z, i\u00e7eride ise g\u00fcvensiz b\u0131rak\u0131yor. Ayn\u0131 \u00e7at\u0131 alt\u0131nda ya\u015fayan ama ayr\u0131 d\u00fcnyalarda duran \u00e7iftler bu yaln\u0131zla\u015fman\u0131n modern temsilcileri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bug\u00fcn\u00fcn gen\u00e7leri evlilikten ka\u00e7m\u0131yor; daha \u00e7ok anlam\u0131n\u0131 yitirmi\u015f, duygusal ve ekonomik olarak s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclemez hale gelmi\u015f ili\u015fkilerden uzak duruyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc art\u0131k evlilik, sadece sevgiyle de\u011fil; sosyal onay, ekonomik istikrar ve duygusal olgunlukla da s\u0131nan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ve t\u00fcm bu karma\u015fan\u0131n ortas\u0131nda as\u0131l ihtiyac\u0131m\u0131z h\u00e2l\u00e2 ayn\u0131: Anla\u015f\u0131lmak, sevilmek, korunmak ve bir yere ait olmak. Geleneksel de\u011ferlerin s\u00f6yledi\u011fi gibi, huzur ne fazlada ne g\u00f6steri\u015fte. \u0130nsan, eksik olmaya raz\u0131 oldu\u011funda tamamlanabilir. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc evlilik, iki kusursuz insan\u0131n birle\u015fmesi de\u011fil; eksikleri birlikte ta\u015f\u0131yabilen iki yorgun ruhun yolculu\u011fudur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Peki ne yapmal\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Evlili\u011fin anlam\u0131n\u0131 yeniden tarif etmemiz gerekiyor. Sorun yaln\u0131zca gen\u00e7lerin evlenmek istememesi de\u011fil; evlili\u011fi tan\u0131mamalar\u0131 ya da tan\u0131d\u0131klar\u0131 \u015fekliyle ona g\u00fcvenememeleri. \u00d6nce g\u00fcveni geri getirmeliyiz \u2014 sevginin emekle b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcne, s\u00f6z\u00fcn sadakatle de\u011fer kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131na, birlikte ya\u015faman\u0131n m\u00fcmk\u00fcn oldu\u011funa dair inanc\u0131 tazelemeliyiz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Bu da ancak e\u011fitimle, k\u00fclt\u00fcrel d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcmle ve g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr \u00f6rneklerle olur. Aileyi kutsalla\u015ft\u0131rmak de\u011fil, ya\u015fanabilir k\u0131lmak gerek. M\u00fckemmel e\u015f fikrinden \u00e7ok, birlikte \u00f6\u011frenen, birlikte b\u00fcy\u00fcyen yol arkada\u015fl\u0131\u011f\u0131 fikri yayg\u0131nla\u015fmal\u0131. \u0130nsanlar birbirini de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye de\u011fil, anlamaya odakland\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ba\u011flar g\u00fc\u00e7lenir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Gen\u00e7lere y\u00fck de\u011fil, umut vermeliyiz. Hayat kurman\u0131n, g\u00f6steri\u015fli bir d\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnden \u00e7ok daha \u00f6nemli oldu\u011funu anlatmal\u0131y\u0131z. Sosyal medyada pazarlanan a\u015fklar\u0131n de\u011fil, ger\u00e7ek hayatta ya\u015fanm\u0131\u015f ili\u015fkilerin daha fazla g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr oldu\u011fu bir anlat\u0131 in\u015fa etmeliyiz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Erkeklik yaln\u0131zca g\u00fc\u00e7le; kad\u0131nl\u0131k yaln\u0131zca sab\u0131rla tan\u0131mlanmamal\u0131. Her iki cinsiyetin de ili\u015fkide \u00fcstlenebilece\u011fi ortak sorumluluklar, yeni bir denge zemini yaratmal\u0131. 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Bu y\u00fczden korunmas\u0131 da, g\u00fc\u00e7lendirilmesi de yaln\u0131zca k\u00fclt\u00fcrel de\u011fil; ayn\u0131 zamanda sosyal, ekonomik ve politik bir sorumluluktur.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>2.05.2025 Bug\u00fcn\u00fcn gen\u00e7leri evlilikten ka\u00e7m\u0131yor; daha \u00e7ok anlam\u0131n\u0131 yitirmi\u015f, duygusal ve ekonomik olarak s\u00fcrd\u00fcr\u00fclemez hale gelmi\u015f ili\u015fkilerden uzak duruyor. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc art\u0131k evlilik, sadece sevgiyle de\u011fil; sosyal onay, ekonomik istikrar ve duygusal olgunlukla da s\u0131nan\u0131yor. Mehmet K\u0131rtorun\/ Yazar Yaln\u0131zl\u0131k, \u00e7a\u011f\u0131n en yayg\u0131n ama en g\u00f6r\u00fcnmeyen ger\u00e7e\u011fi. 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